To me, the answer is quite simple. I believe are all unique, our journey is going to be unique to ourselves. We can't travel another's path because we have our own story. We all react to stimuli differently, we all have our own biology and chemistry.
We can take pieces of what others have learned but we can't mirror their experience of 'recovery'. We will fail if we do that. It's not our story and it's not our path.
Embrace your uniqueness. That is where you will find healing and balance!