This quote changed my life. I have a very painful past and live with daily challenges. The Holidays bring upon some of the most difficult times for me. I'm haunted by memories, illness and things I have lost along the way.
Each Holiday brings about it's own difficulties for me. No matter the Holiday there is always a deep un-penetrable darkness in my soul. I always try to live by Vivian's quote. I allow myself to be open to the possibility that the Holiday will bring me some happiness and healing.
A strategy I always use is setting boundaries. I let my family know that events I will attend and some I will not. If I do attend the event I always let them know I may not stay the entire time. My family has come to accept this. Setting these boundaries over the years has taken away any guilt I may felt on my part. It also allowed my family to accept that some days and times I need for myself.
Allow yourself to find what happiness and surprises may find you during the Holiday Season. Be open to them, it helps you grow.
Never punish yourself if you just can't attend an event. It's okay that is where you are at this time in your life.
My advice to all is: begin setting boundaries. It's hard at first but after time it becomes a common understanding with those who love you.
Bumbles is my holiday hero!
Love and understanding can change perspectives and feelings.
'be kind to yourself'